An Army Wives Happily Ever After

                                    Dhol Waj Gaya - Band Baj Gaya

Life is extremely simple until you decide to get hitched with men in Olive green. Like any other indian girl I dreamt a fancy romantic honeymoon and all the glitterati you watch in Karan Johar's movie. Mine went like  " A jill came tumbling after kind of honeymoon in reality". 

When we meet men in Olive Green it feels like those fairy tales we heard in our childhood where you vision your knight riding on a black horse and lifting you in his arms and suddenly scene changes, Reality becomes more like Your Olive green Knight cell phone rings around 6 a.m. and his buddy gets him his hot cup of coffee and he jumps off the bed. You rush and it feels what happened that he suddenly jumped and the rush hour begins.

When you get married with an Army Guy , its one of the most beautiful moment in your life because your man is no ordinary Man. He is the Man, THE ONE WHO DOESN'T DRIVE BMW BUT A TANK AND CARRIES AK-47. When we were in courtship it all seemed so calm beautiful and a never ending fairytale but in reality it was HOURS OF WAITING, LDR - LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP, WAITING FOR CALL and speaking till 5 a.m. This all looks very difficult but when it's your man in his uniform it's all what matters. One look and your soul is at peace.

Unlike other couples, Army Officers and their wives are absolutely different. Not to mention many a times we become laughing stock and subject to weird questions

Friends : How do you manage to stay away from your husband ?

Don't you crave for S** after marriage ?

Do you think he is the right one for you , your not able to work etc ?

All these questions and pitiful eyes are an army wives common encounters. After few days when you fail to explain and persuade other fellow mates about your life you start thinking about smart answers.

Sometimes you may also listen to some very concerned aunt saying he might be cheating on you as real man can never stay away from his wife. So you know these sentences might ring the bell. And this is the moment when your inner self tolerance is tested and put to grill. 

So you think about others comments and you tighten up your soul and realise that who so ever says whatsoever I love my man and that is what matters to me. Getting married in our world famous Indian culture in not less dramatic with all those dhol dhamaka and dhoom dhadakka wedding. Personally I froze on my wedding day and all my dreams about wedding got their sweet A** kicked. 

Basically I am a north indian girl and my husband is a south Indian guy, cherry on top was he is the Indian Army so Life was rocking Tadka Marr Ke. All my families and friends presumptions went for the toss in front of my husbands support. 

One thing is for sure, If you are married with an army officer you are his queen, And I mean this. But here comes the spice and sugar in my life. Right after 1 month of our wedding I had to leave for Kashmir as Raakesh was posted in Bhadarwah for his RR posting. 

Now when your husband is in RR you need to have some Jigara to go through this period of time in your life. RR is the most crucial and tough period of any army officers life and the most challenging for his wife. Separation is killing and right after marriage it becomes hell. It's real nightmare for anybody in love. So here I was newlywed staying away from my husband right after my marriage.

But god has blessed me with the most amazing In- Laws and my parents and siblings support during this period of my life was impeccable. Thanks to my friends as well few of them really kept me going. After 5 months of distance my mind was getting furious and I was wondering what's happening in my life.

I still remember crying in my bathroom full of wet eyes in shower thinking like I'm Titanic,cause I was sinking. Like Titanic I was everything , here I was busy with 9-5 Shootings stage shows ,modelling, Corporate Training job where I worked on sundays , cause it was so hectic. And here I was after marriage , all alone by myself , having Dual M.A in History and Mass Communication. After working in Doordarshan and Dainik Bhaskar, After working with a renowned corporate Trainer in Pune , here I was helpless, waiting for my husbands call whole day and thinking I'm sinking.

While taking shower I could taste my tears and I still remember I said this in shower, God I have to do something now and I'm gonna do it now. NO MATTER WHAT. And thats when I took a call and started working on what can I do. 

It was Ganesh Chaturthi 2013 when after preparing for apx 6 months I spread the word out about my Training company where I started taking sessions for Individuals and organisations. I knew I was talented all I wanted next was somebody recognising it. And here starts my journey of my venture PS-TRAININGS. 

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2 oct 2013 I conducted my first public seminar MAP OF SUCCESS and since then It was never looking back. 

I started taking sessions exhaustively,worked insane and I found my peace. I started anchoring in DD again. It was this moment when I shook my head, straightened my loins and grabbed my life. I was finally loving my life, travelling,learning,gaining knowledge and taking charge of the situation. 

And hands down kudos to Raakesh, he supported me in creating my brand in and out. I was feeling blessed. This is my story regarding my HAPPILY EVER AFTER. When you have goals and aim in life and when god blesses you with an amazing supporting husband , nothing can stop you. 

Today after three years I am a certified Trainer, and an ISHMA awardee. My venture is having small wings but it's flying. 

When I meet young girls in my seminar and when they ask me regarding getting married with an army man and choosing a career. I explain them what's my story. 

This is my Fairy tale and this is my Happily Ever After.

If you are an army wife, or a girlfriend to an army Officer do think about yourself and your metal babe,cause this life is short , I wish you make it large. It's very easy to complain and give up and say what can I do but life is about what can you do .

Do comment and share your experience



Live life and trust me to be a queen, you must be efficient for the thrown also. 

You can directly mail me at priyankas.secret@gmail.com

Take Care,

Priyanka

Kerala Fish Curry and Indian Spice Mix

What the FISH !!!

Fish is one ingredient my husband cannot live without , trust me he can leave me but Fish oh my never. I fell in love with fish exactly when I fell in love with my husband,Raakesh , sometimes I feel if it wasn't for fish we would have never been together. It's amazing how sharing food with each other can simply enhance your love life and S** life ( ladies only)

We are exhaustive travellers and coastal region is our weakness. No wonder, my man belongs to kerala so his DNA sparks when he smells coconut oil in fish curry and he simply looks happy and content. I can tell this is true because he looks so happy.

If you are a seafood lover or a wife whose husband is in mad love with seafood or if you are a spinster who loves to entertain his friends and his girlfriend this recipe is for you my reader. Food is something that connects us. So today I share my recipe of Authentic Kerala Fish Curry which I prepare in chetty ( Gifted by my lovely Mother-in-law)

First make your own spice mix - I always insist my husband to buy pure spices whenever we are on holidays especially kerala. You get the purest and authentic spices there. I always say its better to invest money in pure things rather wasting money on impure products.

I recently visited spice plantation farm in kerala and what fragrance of spices. It wasn't cheap but since when pure things have been cheap. It's worth every single penny. I really pushed him for buying me these authentic spices and it costed us nothing less then 1000 bugs / kg. And for the first time in my life I bought spices worth 10 k . YOU MUST BE THINKING THIS LADY IS CRAZY BUT i'M NOT.


I can assure you that my friend, The difference between the so call packaged spices available in your store and the spices which are available from farm or field is that - THERE IS NO CONTEST.

Let me share the most amazing Indian Spice Mix Recipe with you

INDIAN SPICE MIX


Ingredients :

2 tbsp cumin (Jeera)
2 star anise
3 Cloves (Laung)
5 Cardamoms ( Ilaichi )
1 Cinnamon Stick ( Daalchini )
2 tbsp Fennel seeds ( sauf)
4 Black Pepper
1/2 Nutmeg
1/2 Roasted Coriander Seeds
2 Bay Leaves ( Tej Patta)

Mix all the ingredients together and store it in a cool and dry place.


Now for the Fish Curry 

I always request my husband to get me fresh sea fish because its tasty and takes much less time to cook and the spice mix adds another level of perfection to it. Simply put, it really matters if you have spices. So spend your hard earned money in this area. 

For Fish Curry You would be needing marination and paste both.

Marination

2 fish fillets ( Its your choice, fresh is the only key to flavour)
1 teaspoon white vinegar ( Something I learned in Goa )
Pinch of salt 

Rub salt and vinegar and keep it aside for 15 min , do cover it with transparent foil or just put the lid on.

Paste

1 Green Chilli
2 Onions 
Turmeric 
Salt
Red Paprika
Coriander 
Spice Mix - which is mentioned above 


Mix all the ingredients together in a mixer. Remember this is your quantity so accordingly choose how much salt and chilli you want to add in your paste. 

Important - If you are making a paste use very less spices or no spices here after in your recipe.

Curry


1 tbsp Coconut Oil
1 Bay Leaf 
1 whole line of Curry Leaves ( Good for Cholesterol) , So have more
1 Lemon
2 Tomatoes Chopped
1 Onion sliced
1 Banana Leaf
1 tbsp - Imli paste ( Tamarind )


Tadka

1 Tbsp Ghee
1 Stock of curry Leaves
Rai
Jeera - Optional

Spice Paste which you prepared 

Method - 

Heat the coconut oil to a high temperature , Place your Chatty and observe if it's ready , add onion, bay leaf and cook until golden brown.

Add the contents of the paste , and now if you wish to add more masala then its your choice else this would suffice.Cook this paste until you observe the oil getting collected over curry. Now add tomatoes and saute till it all forms and looks like a thick curry paste. Add imli paste and mix well.

Once this is done arrange the fish steaks or fillets over the curry.

Prepare the tadka in a tadka pan. Add ghee, rai,jeera, curry leaves ( you can also add more sliced onion) it really adds caramelised flavour.

Pour the tadka over the curry and let it soak in the ghee for 5 - 10 min. Once done Serve it over fresh Banana Leaf and Hot steamed rice.

Pic - Google search

Do prepare and let me know how it turns your world around. Subscribe to the link and get update from my secret recipes.

Share your recipes and don't forget to comment below. I really love when I see comments. I appreciate you for reading my recipe. Thank you and God Bless

Take Care,
Priyanka

Coconut Lip Balm - Home made and Absolutely Amazing

Winters have started and having a sensitive skin makes it very tough to maintain moisture. I have bought god knows how many moisturizers in my life and trust me, they are truly disappointing.Maybe my skin responds to only pure products.

So I was feeling roughness on my lips and limbs. First like anybody else I decided to visit grocery store and purchase creams and lotions, indeed I bought few of them but I observed they don't work after 2 to 3 hours. You are back to roughness and I was feeling what the hell.

Then I thought why not try and make my own LIP BALM and bingo I tried one of my very own recipes.

Today I will share with you my Truly special simple and effective Recipe. It's so easy I guarantee you will never visit store or purchase Lip Balm ever. Cause trust me I was never the kind of person who would make my home made lip balm but its far better then store products. Plus it's home made by yourself.

We all believe nowadays that due to lack of time it's better to buy a product. But we forget that these products don't even last long and the results Oh god. Save me. I personally know much damage they make to our skin as I'v been SHOP TILL YOU DROP person when it comes to shopping.

Save Yourself and if you really love yourself Try my recipe. Trust me you will thank me



Home made Lip Balm is simple and you can create varieties of scents by just changing the essential oil in the recipe.You have to make sure you choose oils that are non toxic for your lip balms. You can easily use rose,Lavender,Sweet Orange , Vanilla and lemon.


You can buy them easily at very reasonable price , the link is mentioned below :

http://www.amazon.in/Ancient-Living-Essential-Oils-10ml/dp/B00SR7EXGU/ref=sr_1_1?s=hpc&ie=UTF8&qid=1446188763&sr=1-1&keywords=essential+oils

Beeswax - Buy it from Green Junction, they are the best

http://www.ebay.in/itm/331577080679?aff_source=Sok-Goog

Shea Butter -

http://www.ebay.in/itm/GJs-Organic-Raw-Unrefined-Shea-Butter-Origin-Ghana-Ivory-100gms-Jar-/231668927136?hash=item35f08b4aa0:g:zpYAAOSwgQ9V4E0G

Peppermint Oil - http://www.ebay.in/itm/Pure-Pepermint-Essential-Oil-30ml-Mentha-Piperata-by-deve-herbes-/191610163029?hash=item2c9cdb0f55:g:zGgAAOSw9r1WARaH

Now let's get started 
 ( If coconut oil is in solid form just fill one milk pan with 1 inch water and place your oil container in boiling water for 5 min)



Recipe for Coconut Lip Balm 

3 tablespoons of coconut oil
2 tablespoons beeswax 
1 tablespoon Shea Butter
3 Drops of peppermint extract


1. Place a small saucepan or milkpan over Gas Burner add the coconut oil, beeswax and shea butter.
2. Stir the mixture until its transparent and completely melted.
3. Remove the saucepan from the burner and stir in the peppermint extract.
4. If you have whisking tool use that solidifying the mixture.
5. With the help of a spoon fill the glass container and let it cool. Liquid will solidify in few hours.
6. Store this balm in refrigerator for upto 2 - 3 months.


You can easily buy Tiny Jars and Glass containers in any store. The best ones are

http://www.ebay.in/itm/Yera-Glassware-Picolo-Spice-Jar-A-A-PH01-M3-15-A-A-1-piece-445-ml-/321796922244?hash=item4aec975b84:g:BpEAAOSw3ydVk7oL



You can easily buy these online or you can also purchase them at any nearby store. Make sure they are glass jars.


Just few initial steps in manufacturing and you have year around supply of your very own home made lip balm. So ladies and Gentleman , why not try these very effective ingredients at the comfort and hygiene of your own home and make your skin super soft this winter.

I even apply my LIP BALM over my lipstick and it looks like LIP GLOSS.


Do let me know how your lip balm turned out and I would love to share your creative ideas too. So write down and comment below your experience. How you manufactured, how you implemented. Would love to read your creation.


You can contact me directly  priyankas.secret@gmail.com


Take Care ,
Priyanka

Eat Pray Love is just not Enough Now !!!

Do what you wanna do,say wat you wanna say, Lets get loud !

Once upon a time there used to be cameras,Lights and action in my life, don't take me wrong I am talking about early days of my life teenage years where I used to be busy back to back with my shootings and photo shoots and modelling etc. With eyes full of dreams and my huge collection of magazines I had very few friends couldn't exactly remember even who were my friends. I was so busy in my work schedule I rarely had time and rarely met anyone.

Writing scripts around 1 a.m. and shooting at 4 a.m. with make up etc was thrill and excitement for me. I had almost 5000+ magazines and books. I loved reading. As a young girl I used to believe that when ever I have problems I'll read a book and my life will be sorted.

When we are in our teens we feel and visualise the illusions embossed over our minds and we create this perfect 3 hour movie or song etc in our head and confirm that this will be our reality. My childhood times were more about proving myself every day. Like any other normal middle class girl I was not pampered at all. More over having a strict father and fragile mother made life more challenging. I was always under pressure of proving myself all the time.

EAT,PRAY,LOVE was not enough in my life I had to study travel alone in local trains and deal with eve teasing all myself. And cherry on top was when eve teasers chased you back home my parents doubted me. So proving proving and proving in every area of my life made me really good at what I am today.

I was tested everywhere and I tried to prove myself without any skills so called. Frankly speaking I learned everything on my own. And honestly thanks to mobile phones and internet packs for making me learn else I would have been in debts forever for buying books all my life.

Here I will share with you all my small moments of happiness. Live life and live Large.



Cheers to you, who ever you are, where ever you are. M with you

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