Setting Priorities in Life - How it changed my Life miraculously ,Why I changed my Priorities and why you should too

Desires dictate our priorities, priorities shape our choices, and choices determine our actions.” 
― Dallin H. Oaks

It is not a daily increase, but a daily decrease. Hack away at the inessentials.” 
― Bruce Lee

Time management is an oxymoron. Time is beyond our control, and the clock keeps ticking regardless of how we lead our lives. Priority management is the answer to maximizing the time we have.”

– John C Maxwell, best-selling author, speaker, & consultant on Leadership

Recently I attended Mr Sushil Prasade session on Setting Priorities in Life in Mumbai.It was an eye opener session for me and it indeed changed my life and I could really learn my Priorities.

What are your priorities right now ?

How to set priorities - 

Do fewer $10/hr tasks and more $100/hr tasks

I learned this one from my mentors. One of them really focusses on this, He’s always pushing his staff, and especially managers to, “focus on the $100/hr tasks and spend less time on the $10/hr tasks.”

This means avoiding being bogged down by too many admin tasks, filing things, building your own framework in excel when an app could do it out of the box, or avoiding delegating work when you should. And those $100/hr tasks are those high-skill tasks that really add value, whether that be investing in relationships with clients, exploring new business opportunities, or spending more time on a consultation’s complex problems.

My mentor has grown a business to millions in revenue by offloading those $10/hr tasks to a central office and letting his field staff focus on the high value services they provide clients.  The central office experiences cost efficiencies by consolidating the work and his field staff are happy to not have to deal with those tasks.

How it applies to managers: Bring this mindset to any kind of work you do.  Challenge yourself to consider which parts of your work (and your team) are $100/hr tasks, and which are lower value and should be delegated or eliminated.  

A secret of Silicon Valley is how much work is actually done offshore and outsourced. It turns out, people can solve some problems (like identifying whether a photo is inappropriate) both better and cheaper than engineers writing and perfecting code to do it. What $10/hr work can you offload from yourself or your team?

Life is as simple as these three questions: What do I want? Why do I want it? And, how will I achieve it?” 
― Shannon L. Alder

The weird thing is that the more efficient, on task, on goal you are with your time, the more energy you have. Working with no traction, or for that matter simply wasting a day, does not relax you, it drains you.//
Strange as it may seem, when you work a daily plan in pursuit of your written goals that flow from your mission statement born of your vision for living your dreams, you are energized after a tough long day.” 
― Dave Ramsey, EntreLeadership: 20 Years of Practical Business Wisdom from the Trenches

Info source - www.get lighthouse.com

Book to Read In December - Planning and Preparing for the New Year 2016 - Book “6 Months to 6 Figures By Peter Voogd

“6 Months to 6 Figures”

Lessons I learned  from this book -

The 4 W’s to Lifestyle Satisfaction:

What do you do? —What’s the possibility and upside? Is the opportunity endless? Is it something you enjoy doing? Does it really inspire and help people? Are you in 100% control of your schedule, income, and advancement? Most people say they love what they do, but deep down, if they could do anything they wanted, they would do something else. Please don't settle. If you REALLY love what you do, you’ll never work a day in your life. I am glad I found what I love and everyday it makes me feel happy. I write,I read, I empower, I travel and I feel very content at the end of the day. What are you doing lately ?


Who do you do it with? —Who is leading you? Search for likeminded people in your life, it is exhausting to be a lion amongst sheeps. If you are a Lion find your pride, don't settle for sheeps. You will never be happy or content. Find the ones who inspire you. Think !!! Are your relations inspiring, and do they challenge you? The times I’ve thrived the most were because of the mentors and leaders guiding me. They lived the lifestyle I wanted, they had the amazing relationships I wanted, and they practiced what they preached. Do you love and appreciate those you associate with daily? The most important lesson that I learned in my life after years of people pleasing is this that Most people hate what they do, hate their boss, and hate their co-workers. Life is too short to have toxic people around you.

When do you do it, and when you don’t? —Do you have flexibility? When I started my company, I had no idea how I will continue it. I wanted to choose the best suitable career path for myself where I felt happy and I don't have to compromise my personal life as well.Can you design your business to fit around your lifestyle. Ultimately, you are in control of your own future and can take it as big and as far as you want to grow. You need the real passion to pull your potential out. Are you up before your alarm because you’re so excited to take on your day or do you sleep in dreading getting up? Gary Vaynerchuk  if you hate what you do, even a small percentage, it’s time for a change.

Where you do work? —Can you work from home or while you’re traveling? I am blessed and thankful to god that I was already into media and mass communication. So Public Speaking was not that difficult option for me to choose. But according to research Public Speaking is higher then  phobia of death. Many people cannot handle it. It suited me and my lifestyle, I choose my passion what about you ? Can you move if you’re tired of where you are living? Do you have an inspiring environment that sparks your creativity and genius? This is why becoming a lifestyle entrepreneur is difficult for many of us. But I have always been a firm believer of WHERE THERE IS A WILL, THERE IS ALWAYS A WAY.I am confidently guessing you have goals to increase your income. Maybe you're sick of making the same income or you can’t stand the feeling of financially struggling. 


What is the difference between those who are thriving and those who aren’t?

Well, we all have the same twenty-four hours in a day, so they must be doing something different with their time, right? They must have a better perspective about money and how it’s earned. If you are not satisfied with your income, let me give you some straight- forward tactical tips that can be used right away. 

Stop doing what you’re doing:

The first thing you must do if you are dissatisfied is stop doing what you’ve been doing, because that’s what has created your current reality. We’ve all heard the famous quote by Albert Einstein, “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.”What’s great about life and opportunity is the chance to completely change the story and direction overnight. Regardless of your past decisions, you’re always one decision away from making the right one. 

Don’t let money define you: Your self-worth has nothing to do with your finances. Whether you have a negative bank account or $10 million, your confidence should never waiver. If anything, your confidence should increase when you are stressed, and this stress should motivate you to NEVER feel that way again.

 Being wealthy is a state of mind, but so is being broke. Who you are defines you, not what you possess.

Start prioritizing your profits: When you set up your weekly schedule, make sure you start with income producing activities.


Twenty percent of your activities account for 80% of your income. Figure out what those critical-inch activities are, and do more of them. Really think about the top two or three things you need to do to create more income. Now put those in your schedule consistently so you assure you are creating income. Constantly ask yourself if what you’re doing is profitable, and focus on doing what you should versus what you feel.

Also, remember: impact drives income. Start placing a higher value on your time: Time is more valuable than money. You can always get more money, but you can never get more time. Is it possible to become twice as valuable, and make twice as much money in the same amount of  time? Of course it is. There is nothing more valuable than time invested wisely. We all have the same 24 hours. It’s what you do with them that determines everything.


Start Planning for your new year in a progressive and constructive way, You will end up being more happy and proud of your achievements.

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Take care,
Love and Hugs,
Priyanka

The Battle of LDR- LONG DISTANCE SURVIVAL

Hud Mauja Hi Mauja

Sham Savere

MAKE IT COUNT -

There is going to come a time when you two will spend some time together again. You might fly out and surprise your partner or they might be coming back using some vacation time from the job.

I FLEW DOWN TO MEET RAAKESH ON REPUBLIC DAY. I just wanted to give him surprise and booked my flight last minute.

When that time fast approaches it is going to be incredible for both of you. This is the time to really strengthen that relationship and give you both all the power you will need to make it to the end. This is not about grabbing each other and locking the door for the weekend, it is about connecting with each other and doing things that will help to make the remainder of your time apart easier. Taking a slow walk on the streets and eating street side momos,  hand in hand while talking about time that has passed can really make this time more memorable. One thing that you will notice when you first see each other is how exciting it is to learn each others habits and mannerisms all over again. You may have forgotten how they crinkle their nose when they laugh, how they breathe when they kiss you, or especially how they smell. These are fun things to learn all over again.


Choose something the two of you have never done before and create some new memories. It doesn’t have to be a theme park, it could be as simple as trying a Japanese restaurant for the first time. Going to a spa and getting a couple’s massage, or even hitting the clubs and signing up for a night of Karaoke. Go ahead and make fools of yourself because these are the memories that are going to make you smile when the distance becomes an issue once again. Do something that the two of you have talked about but never found the time to do.
When me and Raakesh were in Bangalore I asked him to let me sit on conveyor belt ,he let me and all the staff came running over to scold us.

It was a sheer childlike joy and we ran 😁

 If you can just enjoy the moment, you can relive this moment for months if you need. It will help to solidify your bond and help you survive a long distance relationship much easier. The time together is going to go fast, so make sure before that day arrives you make a list of everything you want to do together. Take selfies in front of your favorite hang outs, meet with old friends, walk the beach, go to the movies, just be sure you don’t let the time go by without doing things you need to help you survive another long time apart. I used to ask Raakesh to bring some of his shirts that he didn’t wash yet. Not the ones he sweated in like a pig, the ones he wore around the house or to bed. I would put them on my pillow and sleep with them for weeks before the smell was gone.



The toughest part -


The first few days apart are the hardest. Those couple days you will call and text each other all day and night. Those first nights were the hardest on me because I knew my best friend would not be walking through that door and it was killing me. We talked on the phone, we texted, and we video chatted until we both fell asleep on the phone together. I remember on numerous occasions my phones in the house were drained of power from being on them eight hours each day.


As time passes however you spend less time on the phone as you have to get back to your normal life at home. Staying committed to the process and to each other begins right at the beginning of the long distance relationship. You have to treat this relationship like it were any other one, and simply do some of the things that strengthen those bonds. If you simply let time go by and stop doing the little things, then like any relationship it will simply die. . If you stop doing certain things, then you can not expect your partner to stay committed either. The most important thing you can do is to call each other before bed every single night. There is absolutely no excuse for not saying good night to each other. You can not even understand how powerful that feeling is knowing when that phone rings late at night it is someone in the world that loves you on the other end. This has to be ritual number one that you never stop doing from today to the day you two are back together. Texting and emailing definitely does count.

Be Creative -


Your long distance relationship will only survive if you make an effort to keep things fresh and exciting. With distance between you and no physical contact, you might think you only have a few options to be creative that will come off as fresh to your partner. I was like you once as well because I believed he was going to get bored quick of hot pictures of myself or sexy voice messages on his phone. You might be surprised that many of these ideas are not sexually related at all. I mean your entire relationship is not built on sex or it would be a very short long distance relationship. You have to really think outside of the box and do things that are silly, funny, and make them only think about you. Here are just a few of those things I have tried and I have learned from people who have made it much longer than you could ever imagine at being apart.


 Learn to be there for each other during tough days -


Learning is recognizing when trouble is close by and helping each other realize the end is so close. Picturing what the end will be like can often pull that reality into your life much faster. You have no idea how fast this time is going to pass, and one day you will look back and be amazed you were strong enough to get through. One technique I used to get through these tough times was to simply look back on my life at things I didn’t think I could accomplish but did. I would think about challenges I swore would break me, then look back in amazement at how I actually did it with ease. I conquered many mountains that at first looked impossible. If I could scale those mountains I knew I could scale this one. In the last ,I want to get you all excited about that day you have been waiting for, the day you two move in together for good.

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Take care
Priyanka