The Battle of LDR- LONG DISTANCE SURVIVAL

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MAKE IT COUNT -

There is going to come a time when you two will spend some time together again. You might fly out and surprise your partner or they might be coming back using some vacation time from the job.

I FLEW DOWN TO MEET RAAKESH ON REPUBLIC DAY. I just wanted to give him surprise and booked my flight last minute.

When that time fast approaches it is going to be incredible for both of you. This is the time to really strengthen that relationship and give you both all the power you will need to make it to the end. This is not about grabbing each other and locking the door for the weekend, it is about connecting with each other and doing things that will help to make the remainder of your time apart easier. Taking a slow walk on the streets and eating street side momos,  hand in hand while talking about time that has passed can really make this time more memorable. One thing that you will notice when you first see each other is how exciting it is to learn each others habits and mannerisms all over again. You may have forgotten how they crinkle their nose when they laugh, how they breathe when they kiss you, or especially how they smell. These are fun things to learn all over again.


Choose something the two of you have never done before and create some new memories. It doesn’t have to be a theme park, it could be as simple as trying a Japanese restaurant for the first time. Going to a spa and getting a couple’s massage, or even hitting the clubs and signing up for a night of Karaoke. Go ahead and make fools of yourself because these are the memories that are going to make you smile when the distance becomes an issue once again. Do something that the two of you have talked about but never found the time to do.
When me and Raakesh were in Bangalore I asked him to let me sit on conveyor belt ,he let me and all the staff came running over to scold us.

It was a sheer childlike joy and we ran 😁

 If you can just enjoy the moment, you can relive this moment for months if you need. It will help to solidify your bond and help you survive a long distance relationship much easier. The time together is going to go fast, so make sure before that day arrives you make a list of everything you want to do together. Take selfies in front of your favorite hang outs, meet with old friends, walk the beach, go to the movies, just be sure you don’t let the time go by without doing things you need to help you survive another long time apart. I used to ask Raakesh to bring some of his shirts that he didn’t wash yet. Not the ones he sweated in like a pig, the ones he wore around the house or to bed. I would put them on my pillow and sleep with them for weeks before the smell was gone.



The toughest part -


The first few days apart are the hardest. Those couple days you will call and text each other all day and night. Those first nights were the hardest on me because I knew my best friend would not be walking through that door and it was killing me. We talked on the phone, we texted, and we video chatted until we both fell asleep on the phone together. I remember on numerous occasions my phones in the house were drained of power from being on them eight hours each day.


As time passes however you spend less time on the phone as you have to get back to your normal life at home. Staying committed to the process and to each other begins right at the beginning of the long distance relationship. You have to treat this relationship like it were any other one, and simply do some of the things that strengthen those bonds. If you simply let time go by and stop doing the little things, then like any relationship it will simply die. . If you stop doing certain things, then you can not expect your partner to stay committed either. The most important thing you can do is to call each other before bed every single night. There is absolutely no excuse for not saying good night to each other. You can not even understand how powerful that feeling is knowing when that phone rings late at night it is someone in the world that loves you on the other end. This has to be ritual number one that you never stop doing from today to the day you two are back together. Texting and emailing definitely does count.

Be Creative -


Your long distance relationship will only survive if you make an effort to keep things fresh and exciting. With distance between you and no physical contact, you might think you only have a few options to be creative that will come off as fresh to your partner. I was like you once as well because I believed he was going to get bored quick of hot pictures of myself or sexy voice messages on his phone. You might be surprised that many of these ideas are not sexually related at all. I mean your entire relationship is not built on sex or it would be a very short long distance relationship. You have to really think outside of the box and do things that are silly, funny, and make them only think about you. Here are just a few of those things I have tried and I have learned from people who have made it much longer than you could ever imagine at being apart.


 Learn to be there for each other during tough days -


Learning is recognizing when trouble is close by and helping each other realize the end is so close. Picturing what the end will be like can often pull that reality into your life much faster. You have no idea how fast this time is going to pass, and one day you will look back and be amazed you were strong enough to get through. One technique I used to get through these tough times was to simply look back on my life at things I didn’t think I could accomplish but did. I would think about challenges I swore would break me, then look back in amazement at how I actually did it with ease. I conquered many mountains that at first looked impossible. If I could scale those mountains I knew I could scale this one. In the last ,I want to get you all excited about that day you have been waiting for, the day you two move in together for good.

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Take care
Priyanka