Monday, 2 November 2015

Give people what they need, Dog loves Chicken and Parrots love chili , Think about it





What do You WANT and HOW to get it 


Foolish !!! Seriously imagine what happens when you go to a bakery store and you ordered a chocolate cake after waiting for 3 hours when you are desperate to see how the cake looks, baker gives you 1 kg tomato , how would you feel ?  You feel foolish and stupid and angry at the same time. I love Ceaser Salad and my mother loves Bengali Fish Curry, My sister loves Mashed potato with Steak but my father loves Baigan ka bharta and chawal. 

If  I invite them for dinner party and serve my sister baigan ka bharta and my dad bengali fish curry, You can imagine the chaos and bad word of mouth instantly. It's like they will instantly show me their facial expression of  WTF . 

Many people in life think and believe, what they like others will like it too. Reality is antarctica far away from this my friend. It's never about you actually. It's about them. I understand people by what they read and appreciate. Trust me, I can tell you a lot about a person by what they choose to share and read. It tells me about their level of understanding. Long time ago I was a people pleaser, Not that I'm not today, But I am smarter now. I have learned tools to understand what kind of person matches my level. 

FLASHBACK - Go back to your school memories and recall, who was that one teacher that connected the most with you. I could connect only with one, inspite of having 50 teachers.
Who became your best friend in School, I had 80 class mates but I could only become best friends with 3. This is true in every sphere of our life, you know why because everybody is different and we like different things.

When I conduct a seminar full of 100 pax , I know that only 5 people might be able to connect with me. Only 5 will take action, and this is true. When I see any group where people talk about their dresses, gossips, their family problems which are self created issues, I immediately understand this is not my group. When people talk about progress, growth, delicious cooking , recipes, science,news,  latest gadgets and new movies , I get interested. 

The most common way to connect in India is through food. I just saw the video of top 10 most likeable videos in India. And I wasn't surprised 5 of them were food and cooking videos, 2 fashion style videos , 1 gadget video , and top one was AIB. Yes, we love AIB, Cause they show what really happens, maybe thats why people connect with them so much. I'm not a big fan of AIB but I watched their wedding videos, and it's bang on truth. They are changing perceptions with humour and truth. 

My point is - GIVE PEOPLE WHAT THEY WANT AND HOW THEY CAN GET IT

Tomorrow you may want to persuade somebody to do something. Before you speak, pause and ask yourself: HOW CAN I MAKE THIS PERSON WANT TO DO IT ?

I was recently staying at my friends place in Mumbai, she has a beautiful 2 years old daughter. Her name is Aarna, meaning Laxmi, my friend was juggling with her and threatening her to brush her teeth, and like I will not speak with you if you don't listen to me and all. I guess all new mothers are going through this phase, though I'm not a mother yet but because of few articles and books I knew about this theory of persuading. So I tried my shot , I told Aarna, You know if we brush , a genie will come and we can watch him through our window flying, do you wanna see a gennie, she got excited and jumped with joy and ran towards bathroom , and said I wanna see gennie, I will brush. That day I understood, wow, this technique really works. 

Not only on kids but also on adults, I started practicing it, and now I'm able to connect with many people. Because you know, after 60 seconds of an introduction , I can understand what the other person is looking for. People really chat their true self in just 60 seconds. Trust me.

To learn what the other person needs , analyse these things,

When you start the conversation, what do they talk, just listen for 60 seconds and you will understand them. People start conversations generally with your location, then they pick their favourite topic associated with that place. For eg -  Hi, My name is Priyanka, M from raipur , I studied in pune and presently operating in Mumbai. After this statement whatever the other person tells me , I get it what they like. And then you choose that topic to get connected. It could be weather, food,travel, holiday spots, fashion etc etc etc. It's easy to connect. And after that the other person knows that you both share same things. So try this. Talk about what they like, not what you like. 

The most important skill which we never learn in our life is THE ART OF LISTENING. This is the first rule of communication. LISTENING, once you become a good listener then people love you. 

TODAY I SHARE WITH YOU THE BEST ADVICE GIVEN BY HENRY FORD ABOUT FINE ART OF RELATIONSHIPS.

IF THERE IS ANY ONE SECRET TO SUCCESS "IT LIES IN THE ABILITY TO GET THE OTHER PERSON'S POINT OF VIEW AND SEE THINGS FROM THAT PERSON'S ANGLE AS WELL AS FROM YOUR OWN."


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Take Care,
Priyanka





4 comments:

  1. Beautifully written and nicely explained !!! Good one doc..waiting for the next one!

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    1. Hey Karan, Thanks a ton for appreciating my blog. Love your comments. Next blog is coming up. check it today.

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