I mind my Own Business, Minding others business comes with a Price Tag

THE BIG SECRET

Sigmund Frued said that everything you and I do springs from two motives : the sex urge and the desire to be important. Remember this phrase : The desire to be important. What do we want in life,what do you crave for, most people want these things

Health and Wealth

Delicious Food

Peaceful Sleep

Money and things which good money can buy

Sexual gratification

Well being of their children

A feeling that they are important

When I observe myself or anybody around me in this digital era. The entire social media facebook,twitter,whatsapp, what are they actually. They are yet man's another digital invention of making people around us feel special. Before telephone I remember there used to birthday parties where everyone gathered and enjoyed the spread. Now you just send text on whatsapp and your job is done. 

The desire for a feeling of importance is one of the chief differences between mankind and the animals. If our ancestors hadn't had this feeling of importance,probably our civilisation would have been impossible. If It wasn't for getting importance, we would just be mere animals, hunting in the jungles. 

It was this desire for working hard for our country that a tea vendor is our Prime Minister today. The desire makes you wear the latest styles,drive the latest cars, and talk about your daily routine where you want to show others your achievements,you work on your house interior stay stylish and eat well.

After studying Psychology and Mass Communication and working with renowned media dignitaries, and after watching closely how army men judge others, I have learned few skills about knowing people myself. Today if you tell me how you get your feeling of importance, I can tell you what you are. The way people desire compliments after wearing a new attire means they lack self confidence. And they need affirmation from others about it. When people upload selfies within few hours it means they are in serious importance craving chamber. 

The point is most of these desired people are running in a rat race of importance where there significance is getting invalid. 

I attended T.Harv Ekar seminar last year and his words have made a huge impact on my brain. And everyday I memorise these words , I help people without expecting any returns in life. People close to me are sometimes even frustrated because of that. But this is what is my desire of feeling important. Making someone achieve their dreams in the best possible way and I was a part of it, I could help.  

Today I would share with you T.Harv Ekar's words and believe me I paid pretty good amount for it and it has given me amazing results after I started practicing it. He said for all the things we desire it's foolishness to upload photographs , its foolish to share anything which is of no use to others, if you really want others to genuinely feel good about you - DO THIS

After 3 years of hard work and non stop learning from world renowned speakers this is what I share with you today 

" I CONSIDER MY ABILITY TO AROUSE ENTHUSIASM AMONG OTHERS, THE GREATEST ASSET I POSSESS, AND THE WAY TO DEVELOP THE BEST THAT IS IN A PERSON IS BY - APPRECIATING AND ENCOURAGING.

You will notice most of the times in your life that we seek appreciation and compliment when we work on something. Recently there was a research conducted on divorce and run away wives. What do you think could have been the reason - LACK OF APPRECIATION. 

We all are so deluded because of advertising and internet now a days that we think buying expensive products for our loved ones make them love us,or will make them feel happy. Indeed they are happy but for how long. We invest more in buying things and we forget to invest in nourishing their self esteem. We buy all expensive health foods and gadgets and toys for them but words and actions, what about that. What about quality of thoughts, quality of words and quality of skills.  

I have learned this art of appreciation from my husband , cause whatever I do he will appreciate it.From day to day chores to decorating the house,from my simple cooking to my events and seminars,whatever I do he always gives me positive criticism and helps me correct my mistakes. Hurting people never changes them, it spoils our relations and more over it spoil other persons own self confidence sometimes. For a change lets help others in their development. 

So Reader, I request you to mind your own business and focus on positives in others. Seriously who has time and energy to focus on others life and mistakes. If you can help, then help them fix it. If you can't. Don't think and waste your time on it. You can do far better then complaining,gossiping and criticising in life. 

Learn the art of complimenting and appreciation and also positive criticism and see how it changes your world around.



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Priyanka