When you become an Army Wife - You are basically pursuing Ph.D in Waiting, Sacrificing and Adjusting
I agree these men get trained for years, but we women, we just fall in love with them and we TECHNICALLY learn to wait, Learn to sacrifice our precious moments and Adjust with whatever life throws back at us. For an Army wife life is all about Uniform, Country, And believing that our Man is out there to save our nation , so we become brave hearts and leave every happiness in our lives to be with them. or without them.
So when I was dating my husband, I saw military life as a huge barrier to a successful marriage. From deployments to moving all the time to the consequences of war, military life takes regular everyday marriage problems and as a helpless person ,you just go with the flow. Because neither one of you can ever stop it. Duty comes first, Orders comes first. When he has to leave,he has to leave. No matter in what condition you are. You have to learn to stay alone and have a beautiful smile on your face pretending you have the most luxurious life , you get dressed,put your make up on, meet few people or shop and keep waiting.
Well, at least in my mind that’s what I was thinking.
My husband and I actually broke up for a period of time over the whole military thing,when we were in our courtship.It was excruciating hard mentally to go through the separation and distance and not to mention missing important dates was becoming a ritual. After being separated for a period of time, I was in a very dark place. Miserable without him, it was easy for me to see that civilian life without him was FAR WORSE than any military life with him.Yeah !!! that's exactly where you land, you are basically on the edge you cannot be with him, and after dating an army guy you are unable to like any civilian. It's very weird state of mind. Inspite of so much of pain, you feel guilty, cause in your heart you know he is sacrificing his life for a bigger huge purpose and you are the only hope in his life to keep him going in tough times. And then one decides that Yes - I am ready for this .
That was the beginning of my journey into this military wife life. That was the moment I decided to put on my big girl shoes and do this military life thing. Maybe you’ve felt that moment too. The moment when you realize you’re not just gonna tough this thing out, you’re gonna rock this! You try and fight every circumstance and be brave.
And that’s why being a military wife is so hard…
Because you have to put on your big girl shoes—A LOT MANY TIMES....
- Being an ARMY Wife is Hard Because….
- You’ve got to hold it together when your husband leaves to work in a really dangerous place for months on end or more.
- You’ve got to be okay with moving half way around the country from your family.
- You’ve got to be okay with your husband missing all the special stuff like birthdays, holidays, anniversaries, or gasp….the birth of your child as well.
- You’ve got to be okay with putting your career on the back burner sometimes because moving all over the place and maintaining a career isn’t as easy as it looks.
- You’ve got to be okay with letting go some of the control in your life because Lord knows the military is going to make some big life decisions for you.
- You’ve got to be okay with leaving close friends and family behind while you start a new life.
- You’ve got to be okay with having a courthouse wedding when you really wanted a big one because military life or a deployment prevented it from working out that way.
- You’ve got to be okay with facing way more drama in the military community than you ever wished.You’ve got to be okay with parenting alone and feeling lonely sometimes.
- You’ve got to be okay with making new friends over and over and over again.
- You’ve got to be okay with spending as much of your marriage apart as you do together.
- You’ve got to be okay with talking about death, dying, and the traumatic effects of war.
- You’ve got to be okay with finding the positive in the midst of really, really hard.
- You’ve got to be okay choosing happiness in the midst of some really challenging circumstances.
- And you will be okay… sweetheart. Somehow God gives you strength to go through all of this and still love your Man, How this happens, I have no clue. The more he is away,the more you want to spend time, The more he is missing important dates, the more you want every second to be special when you meet next....
- But it’s all of these things, and so much more, that make life as a military wife so hard sometimes. Because you never realize how many Big Girl Shoes you are gonna need until you are neck deep into this whole thing.
- It’s just a lot.
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yes we earlier talked about this. excellent peice of your writing particularly who are already defence personnel wife or wish to be... ....
ReplyDeletebeing Army man son I also have gone through this in a different and difficult perspective..In early part of my childhood...wondefull article😊
yes we earlier talked about this. excellent peice of your writing particularly who are already defence personnel wife or wish to be... ....
ReplyDeletebeing Army man son I also have gone through this in a different and difficult perspective..In early part of my childhood...wondefull article😊