Things People don't tell you - How hard it is to be an Army wife - It's a Ph.D course in Waiting, Sacrificing and Adjusting

When you become an Army Wife - You are basically pursuing Ph.D in Waiting, Sacrificing and Adjusting

I agree these men get trained for years, but we women, we just fall in love with them and we TECHNICALLY learn to wait, Learn to sacrifice our precious moments and Adjust with whatever life throws back at us. For an Army wife life is all about Uniform, Country, And believing that our Man is out there to save our nation , so we become brave hearts and leave every happiness in our lives to be with them. or without them.

So when I was dating my husband, I saw military life as a huge barrier to a successful marriage. From deployments to moving all the time to the consequences of war,  military life takes regular everyday marriage problems and as a helpless person ,you just go with the flow. Because neither one of you can ever stop it. Duty comes first, Orders comes first. When he has to leave,he has to leave. No matter in what condition you are. You have to learn to stay alone and have a beautiful smile on your face pretending you have the most luxurious life , you get dressed,put your make up on, meet few people or shop and keep waiting.

Well, at least in my mind that’s what I was thinking.

My husband and I actually broke up for a period of time over the whole military thing,when we were in our courtship.It was excruciating hard mentally to go through the separation and distance and not to mention missing important dates was becoming a ritual. After being separated for a period of time, I was in a very dark place. Miserable without him, it was easy for me to see that civilian life without him was FAR WORSE than any military life with him.Yeah !!! that's exactly where you land, you are basically on the edge you cannot be with him, and after dating an army guy you are unable to like any civilian. It's very weird state of mind. Inspite of so much of pain, you feel guilty, cause in your heart you know he is sacrificing his life for a bigger huge purpose and you are the only hope in his life to keep him going in tough times. And then one decides that Yes -  I am ready for this . 

That was the beginning of my journey into this military wife life. That was the moment I decided to put on my big girl shoes and do this military life thing. Maybe you’ve felt that moment too. The moment when you realize you’re not just gonna tough this thing out, you’re gonna rock this! You try and fight every circumstance and be brave. 

And that’s why being a military wife is so hard…

Because you have to put on your big girl shoes—A LOT MANY TIMES....

Don’t marry the person you think you can live with; marry only the individual you think you can’t live without.” — James C. Dobson
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Don’t marry the person you think you can live with; marry only the individual you think you can’t live without.” — James C. Dobson
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1. Being an ARMY Wife is Hard Because….
2. You’ve got to hold it together when your husband leaves to work in a really dangerous place for months on end or more.
3. You’ve got to be okay with moving half way around the country from your family.
4. You’ve got to be okay with your husband missing all the special stuff like birthdays, holidays, anniversaries, or gasp….the birth of your child as well.
5. You’ve got to be okay with putting your career on the back burner sometimes because moving all over the place and maintaining a career isn’t as easy as it looks.
6. You’ve got to be okay with letting go some of the control in your life because Lord knows the military is going to make some big life decisions for you.
7. You’ve got to be okay with leaving close friends and family behind while you start a new life.
8. You’ve got to be okay with having a courthouse wedding when you really wanted a big one because military life or a deployment prevented it from working out that way.
9. You’ve got to be okay with facing way more drama in the military community than you ever wished.You’ve got to be okay with parenting alone and feeling lonely sometimes.
10. You’ve got to be okay with making new friends over and over and over again.
11. You’ve got to be okay with spending as much of your marriage apart as you do together.
12. You’ve got to be okay with talking about death, dying, and the traumatic effects of war.
13. You’ve got to be okay with finding the positive in the midst of really, really hard.
14. You’ve got to be okay choosing happiness in the midst of some really challenging circumstances.
15. And you will be okay… sweetheart. Somehow God gives you strength to go through all of this and still love your Man, How this happens, I have no clue. The more he is away,the more you want to spend time, The more he is missing important dates, the more you want every second to be special when you meet next.... 
16. But it’s all of these things, and so much more, that make life as a military wife so hard sometimes. Because you never realize how many Big Girl Shoes  you are gonna need until you are neck deep into this whole thing.
17. It’s just a lot.

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Book to Read In December - Planning and Preparing for the New Year 2016 - Book “6 Months to 6 Figures By Peter Voogd

“6 Months to 6 Figures”

Lessons I learned  from this book -

The 4 W’s to Lifestyle Satisfaction:

What do you do? —What’s the possibility and upside? Is the opportunity endless? Is it something you enjoy doing? Does it really inspire and help people? Are you in 100% control of your schedule, income, and advancement? Most people say they love what they do, but deep down, if they could do anything they wanted, they would do something else. Please don't settle. If you REALLY love what you do, you’ll never work a day in your life. I am glad I found what I love and everyday it makes me feel happy. I write,I read, I empower, I travel and I feel very content at the end of the day. What are you doing lately ?


Who do you do it with? —Who is leading you? Search for likeminded people in your life, it is exhausting to be a lion amongst sheeps. If you are a Lion find your pride, don't settle for sheeps. You will never be happy or content. Find the ones who inspire you. Think !!! Are your relations inspiring, and do they challenge you? The times I’ve thrived the most were because of the mentors and leaders guiding me. They lived the lifestyle I wanted, they had the amazing relationships I wanted, and they practiced what they preached. Do you love and appreciate those you associate with daily? The most important lesson that I learned in my life after years of people pleasing is this that Most people hate what they do, hate their boss, and hate their co-workers. Life is too short to have toxic people around you.

When do you do it, and when you don’t? —Do you have flexibility? When I started my company, I had no idea how I will continue it. I wanted to choose the best suitable career path for myself where I felt happy and I don't have to compromise my personal life as well.Can you design your business to fit around your lifestyle. Ultimately, you are in control of your own future and can take it as big and as far as you want to grow. You need the real passion to pull your potential out. Are you up before your alarm because you’re so excited to take on your day or do you sleep in dreading getting up? Gary Vaynerchuk  if you hate what you do, even a small percentage, it’s time for a change.

Where you do work? —Can you work from home or while you’re traveling? I am blessed and thankful to god that I was already into media and mass communication. So Public Speaking was not that difficult option for me to choose. But according to research Public Speaking is higher then  phobia of death. Many people cannot handle it. It suited me and my lifestyle, I choose my passion what about you ? Can you move if you’re tired of where you are living? Do you have an inspiring environment that sparks your creativity and genius? This is why becoming a lifestyle entrepreneur is difficult for many of us. But I have always been a firm believer of WHERE THERE IS A WILL, THERE IS ALWAYS A WAY.I am confidently guessing you have goals to increase your income. Maybe you're sick of making the same income or you can’t stand the feeling of financially struggling. 


What is the difference between those who are thriving and those who aren’t?

Well, we all have the same twenty-four hours in a day, so they must be doing something different with their time, right? They must have a better perspective about money and how it’s earned. If you are not satisfied with your income, let me give you some straight- forward tactical tips that can be used right away. 

Stop doing what you’re doing:

The first thing you must do if you are dissatisfied is stop doing what you’ve been doing, because that’s what has created your current reality. We’ve all heard the famous quote by Albert Einstein, “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.”What’s great about life and opportunity is the chance to completely change the story and direction overnight. Regardless of your past decisions, you’re always one decision away from making the right one. 

Don’t let money define you: Your self-worth has nothing to do with your finances. Whether you have a negative bank account or $10 million, your confidence should never waiver. If anything, your confidence should increase when you are stressed, and this stress should motivate you to NEVER feel that way again.

 Being wealthy is a state of mind, but so is being broke. Who you are defines you, not what you possess.

Start prioritizing your profits: When you set up your weekly schedule, make sure you start with income producing activities.


Twenty percent of your activities account for 80% of your income. Figure out what those critical-inch activities are, and do more of them. Really think about the top two or three things you need to do to create more income. Now put those in your schedule consistently so you assure you are creating income. Constantly ask yourself if what you’re doing is profitable, and focus on doing what you should versus what you feel.

Also, remember: impact drives income. Start placing a higher value on your time: Time is more valuable than money. You can always get more money, but you can never get more time. Is it possible to become twice as valuable, and make twice as much money in the same amount of  time? Of course it is. There is nothing more valuable than time invested wisely. We all have the same 24 hours. It’s what you do with them that determines everything.


Start Planning for your new year in a progressive and constructive way, You will end up being more happy and proud of your achievements.

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Priyanka

Indian Wedding Season and Preparations - How to Organise your Look, Plan and Prepare for the wedding Event

Mehandi Laga ke Rakhna - Doli Saja ke Rakhna

Get your bangles, lenghas, churidhars, bindhis and your Hrithik Roshan dance steps ready cause Indian wedding season begins :)

As this amazing wedding season begins, and I just returned from Lucknow where I attended my friends wedding, I thought Aren't we all getting our Lehengas, Cocktail Dresses and Sarees ready for this amazing wedding season. So many of us are preparing to attend so many parties starting from Diwali , this entire season will last till new year. Mild winters, Tikkas and Kebabs to cherish. All of us are definitely preparing dancing steps and make up, hair do to look our best and be our best.

Now, who doesn’t love Indian weddings? The music, the food, the drinks, and the uncles with their “screw the light bulb” and “pet the dog” (whatever that saying is) awkward dance moves. This is the time when each girl shines. She looks the best she’s ever looked and she’s going to dance like she’s the next Madhuri Dixit, this is OUR time girls! Who knows, maybe you’ll even find the man of your dreams at one of these weddings.

Okay, now before you get ahead of yourself and run to the wedding hall before the bride and groom even get there, 

 Meet new people. What better place to meet new people than at a wedding. Yes, its super convenient to just sit with the people you know, but after the initial hi, hello, Namastes, go bounce from table to table! Be a social butterfly, this is the perfect time to be one. You never know who you’re going to meet. Most of the time, these are people you will see again at some event or hang out. Make yourself known. 

Next move on to basics and essentials -


As I have been a super planner when it comes to any event I make sure my every assemble is perfect , not to mention when you dress up for these occasions you are constantly getting clicked so why not prepare in advance. Most of the events have Sangeet, Mehandi and wedding not to mention cocktail parties are also an important part of Indian wedding season.

As I mentioned earlier ,me being a super planner I had my Itinerary planned almost a month before,and I started my preparations almost 3 months before. When It comes to preparing and planning  I follow First things First rule.

I firstly researched on my day to day schedule :

1st day was Sagai - So for that I got custom made Salwaar Suit, I was wearing a Pista Green colour Suit with Golden work and I accessorised it with my pearl necklace and pearl earrings.

2nd Day was Sangeet - For which I purchased Alia Bhatt inspired Red Lehenga for the Look and I accessorised it with simple Jhumkis.

3rd Day was Cricket Match , Wedding -

For Cricket Match - I was wearing Black dress from Only and White VERO MODA BIKER JACKET. Esprit black clutch and Black and White sandals.

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Wedding - I was wearing my red Kanjeevaram Saree which I purchased from Jai laxmi Store, Trivandrum. And I wore it with my Golden Jewellery .

https://www.jayalakshmisilks.com/


After pairing each attire, now you need to prepare for Casual Look as well, As we were in Lucknow and I really wanted to explore the city of nawabs , I decided to pack 2 Jumpsuits and a pair of jeans with 2 tops.

Not to forget , when you are travelling, always keep extra pair of intimates. You never know when you may need them. So here I was all prepared to explore Lucknow delicacies,chikankari and a gala wedding.

Buy Travel Organisers - It's really helpful

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You can easily get wedding Planner Checklists online these days, and little planning saves you a lot of stress on such big events. I was relaxed and well planned,thats why I could enjoy every minute of my Lucknow trip.


Here I am sharing with you one of the planning checklist. You can customise it accordingly. This list is basically for the bride,but I felt anyone who is preparing can take a few tips from it. Nothing wrong in that !!!

Rules of Wedding Season Preparations

1. Assemble your Looks according to the events.

2. Research the location and other facilities,you might be needing like Make up artist and Hair stylist.


For my Make up I booked Celebrity Beauty Parlour 

- http://www.bigindianwedding.com/Company/Lucknow/Central-Lucknow/Jopling-Road/Health-and-Beauty/Beauty-salons/The-Celebrity-H-Beauty-Parlor/22630/

    

3. Keep Thank you cards ready, I always carry my personal Thank you cards , you must always thank your host for organising the event.

Here's my Thank you for Inviting on your wedding Note

Mazel Tov!! 

What an incredible week of festivities and celebrations for your wedding.  Indeed, the royal wedding had everything. It was so wonderful to be included in your celebrations, to have the chance to stay with you at Taj Lucknow,  and to be part of your inner circle for the week.  I can't thank you enough for the fabulous excuse to travel to Lucknow  and be with you and your families.  I wish you the most fantastic honeymoon - safe travels back to Mumbai  - all your friends will be waiting there to continue celebrating with you as you begin the next phase of your lives together.  Looking forward to many more joyous occasions with you and wishing you and Pallavi our congratulations on your marriage.

With love."

Dr.Priyanka and Major Raakesh Krishnan




4. Keep your suitcase perfectly packed day wise, I pack my suitcase according to days - like day 1 - what to wear list etc


5. Keep accessories and jewelry in a jewellery box,velvet one. They are safe and they dont break.


6. Research looks and photo poses and keep them filed. I researched on my hair do almost a month 
before and when the stylist asked me what look i want I showed her the photograph.


7. If possible hire your own cab, we all know how hectic it becomes to depend on the hosting family.

 I always insist that I will make my own travel arrangements,this ways you are free to travel and explore places, also if someone needs help,you can give them.


8.Always browse trip advisor for famous food joints.


9. Keep your checklist ready,discuss your attire and your spouse attire 


10. Pack everything perfectly, Book transport and Hotel reservations, and your all set to enjoy.


Last but not the least - 

Enjoy Yourself!

You were invited to share in the joy of the newlywed couple, so enjoy every minute of it! Savor the food, mingle with new people, and most importantly, dance the night away! Nothing will make the couple happier than knowing that their guests had a great time.

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Love,
Priyanka

The Battle of LDR- LONG DISTANCE SURVIVAL

Hud Mauja Hi Mauja

Sham Savere

MAKE IT COUNT -

There is going to come a time when you two will spend some time together again. You might fly out and surprise your partner or they might be coming back using some vacation time from the job.

I FLEW DOWN TO MEET RAAKESH ON REPUBLIC DAY. I just wanted to give him surprise and booked my flight last minute.

When that time fast approaches it is going to be incredible for both of you. This is the time to really strengthen that relationship and give you both all the power you will need to make it to the end. This is not about grabbing each other and locking the door for the weekend, it is about connecting with each other and doing things that will help to make the remainder of your time apart easier. Taking a slow walk on the streets and eating street side momos,  hand in hand while talking about time that has passed can really make this time more memorable. One thing that you will notice when you first see each other is how exciting it is to learn each others habits and mannerisms all over again. You may have forgotten how they crinkle their nose when they laugh, how they breathe when they kiss you, or especially how they smell. These are fun things to learn all over again.


Choose something the two of you have never done before and create some new memories. It doesn’t have to be a theme park, it could be as simple as trying a Japanese restaurant for the first time. Going to a spa and getting a couple’s massage, or even hitting the clubs and signing up for a night of Karaoke. Go ahead and make fools of yourself because these are the memories that are going to make you smile when the distance becomes an issue once again. Do something that the two of you have talked about but never found the time to do.
When me and Raakesh were in Bangalore I asked him to let me sit on conveyor belt ,he let me and all the staff came running over to scold us.

It was a sheer childlike joy and we ran 😁

 If you can just enjoy the moment, you can relive this moment for months if you need. It will help to solidify your bond and help you survive a long distance relationship much easier. The time together is going to go fast, so make sure before that day arrives you make a list of everything you want to do together. Take selfies in front of your favorite hang outs, meet with old friends, walk the beach, go to the movies, just be sure you don’t let the time go by without doing things you need to help you survive another long time apart. I used to ask Raakesh to bring some of his shirts that he didn’t wash yet. Not the ones he sweated in like a pig, the ones he wore around the house or to bed. I would put them on my pillow and sleep with them for weeks before the smell was gone.



The toughest part -


The first few days apart are the hardest. Those couple days you will call and text each other all day and night. Those first nights were the hardest on me because I knew my best friend would not be walking through that door and it was killing me. We talked on the phone, we texted, and we video chatted until we both fell asleep on the phone together. I remember on numerous occasions my phones in the house were drained of power from being on them eight hours each day.


As time passes however you spend less time on the phone as you have to get back to your normal life at home. Staying committed to the process and to each other begins right at the beginning of the long distance relationship. You have to treat this relationship like it were any other one, and simply do some of the things that strengthen those bonds. If you simply let time go by and stop doing the little things, then like any relationship it will simply die. . If you stop doing certain things, then you can not expect your partner to stay committed either. The most important thing you can do is to call each other before bed every single night. There is absolutely no excuse for not saying good night to each other. You can not even understand how powerful that feeling is knowing when that phone rings late at night it is someone in the world that loves you on the other end. This has to be ritual number one that you never stop doing from today to the day you two are back together. Texting and emailing definitely does count.

Be Creative -


Your long distance relationship will only survive if you make an effort to keep things fresh and exciting. With distance between you and no physical contact, you might think you only have a few options to be creative that will come off as fresh to your partner. I was like you once as well because I believed he was going to get bored quick of hot pictures of myself or sexy voice messages on his phone. You might be surprised that many of these ideas are not sexually related at all. I mean your entire relationship is not built on sex or it would be a very short long distance relationship. You have to really think outside of the box and do things that are silly, funny, and make them only think about you. Here are just a few of those things I have tried and I have learned from people who have made it much longer than you could ever imagine at being apart.


 Learn to be there for each other during tough days -


Learning is recognizing when trouble is close by and helping each other realize the end is so close. Picturing what the end will be like can often pull that reality into your life much faster. You have no idea how fast this time is going to pass, and one day you will look back and be amazed you were strong enough to get through. One technique I used to get through these tough times was to simply look back on my life at things I didn’t think I could accomplish but did. I would think about challenges I swore would break me, then look back in amazement at how I actually did it with ease. I conquered many mountains that at first looked impossible. If I could scale those mountains I knew I could scale this one. In the last ,I want to get you all excited about that day you have been waiting for, the day you two move in together for good.

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Priyanka

The Great Indian Marriage - But do we even know what Marriage is ?

                  Waise Pyar Ke Naam Pe hi Yaaron Sab Hua Hai.... Ab bus Pyar hi ho jaye, Itni Duaa Hai

Weddings, in India are huge thing. After ages and even after origination of Indus Valley Civilisation.We speak and focus on caste and religion system when it comes to marriage. 

I have been a wanderer in my life and I still remember my friends calling me unstable in my life. The reason behind me being unstable is my tendency of searching WHAT IS RIGHT FOR ME. I have always believed in one thing and even STEVE JOBS BELIEVES IN THE SAME VERY STRONGLY -

“If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don't settle. As with all matters of the heart, you'll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on.”

Today I'll share with you what great philosophers and Research Scholars have explored regarding marriage.  My first encounter happened when I bought a book in my 2nd year of college. I wanted to read about what is marriage. Unlike others, I 'm anything but traditional. You cannot explain me traditional things without facts and logics. I choose my own path and read and find reasons behind why,what,who etc. So I picked one book by Osho and I wanted to know what marriage is 

According to Osho - 

1. India missed with arranged marriage; the West is missing with free love.
   India missed love because parents were too calculating and cunning. They would not allow falling in love: that is dangerous, nobody knows where it will lead. They were too clever, and through cleverness India missed all possibility of love.
   In the West they are too rebellious, too young; not clever -- too young, too childish. They have made sex a free thing, available everywhere: no need to go so deep to discover love, enjoy sex and be finished.
   
   Through sex, the West is missing: through marriage, the East has missed. But if you are alert you need not be Eastern, you need not be Western. Love is neither Eastern nor Western. Go on discovering love within you. And if you love, sooner or later the person will happen to you, because a loving heart, sooner or later, comes to a loving heart -- it always happens. You will find the right person. But if you are jealous you will not find, if you are simply for sex you will not find, if you live only for security you will not find.
2. Love, and love as deeply as possible. And if love itself becomes the marriage, that is another thing, altogether different. If love itself becomes such an intimacy that it is unbreakable, that is another thing, that is not a legal sanction.
   Legal sanctions are needed only because you are afraid. You know that your love is not enough; you need the legal support for it. You know perfectly well that you can escape or the woman can escape, hence you need the policeman to keep you together. But this is ugly, to need a policeman to keep you together. That's what marriage is!
3. Love affairs have been failing, and parents feel very happy. People come to me and they say, "Look, in the West love affairs have been failing. Then why are you against marriage?" they ask me. Love affairs are failing because first the marriage was arranged by the astrologer, then it was arranged by the parents, and now it is being arranged by biology, by instinct. You suddenly feel that you like a woman, but you don't know how long this is going to last and you are not even aware why you like her. You are not even alert to what it is in you that likes her. Maybe it is just her hairstyle. Now, are you going to get married to a hairstyle? You can get married, but tomorrow morning when you see her hair disheveled you will be at a loss: "Is this the same woman I fell in love with?" How long can you be interested in the hairstyle? Soon you will get fed up. The same hairstyle again and again -- the whole day, twenty-four hours a day...!
   
   People are falling in love because a certain man has a certain type of nose. People are falling in love with fragments! Nobody is bothered about the totality of the person -- and it is a vast thing. The nose does not count for much -- after two days you won't look at it at all. Or the color, or the shape, or the proportion of the body -- all these things are very minor. The real thing is the total functioning of the person, and that can be experienced only when you live together.

Then I read about Buddha and Buddhism 

In Buddhism - 

Marriage. Most religions and moral codes of the West draw a clear, bright line around marriage. Sex inside the line, good. Sex outside the line, bad. Although monogamous marriage is the ideal, Buddhism generally takes the attitude that sex between two people who love each other is moral, whether they are married or not. On the other hand, sex within marriages can be abusive, and marriage doesn't make that abuse moral.

According To John Gottman - 

If there's one lesson I've learned in my years of research into marital relationships--having interviewed and studied more than 200 couples over 20 years--it is that a lasting marriage results from a couple's ability to resolve the conflicts that are inevitable in any relationship. Many couples tend to equate a low level of conflict with happiness and believe the claim "we never fight" is a sign of marital health. But I believe we grow in our relationships by reconciling our differences. That's how we become more loving people and truly experience the fruits of marriage.

Although there are other dimensions that are telling about a union, the intensity of argument seems to bring out a marriage's true colors. To classify a marriage, in my lab at the University of Washington in Seattle, I look at the frequency of fights, the facial expressions and physiological responses (such as pulse rate and amount of sweating) of both partners during their confrontations, as well as what they say to each other and in what tone of voice they interact verbally.

But there's much more to a successful relationship than knowing how to fight well. Not all stable couples resolve conflicts in the same way, nor do they mean the same thing by "resolving" their conflict. In fact, I have found that there are three different styles of problem solving into which healthy marriages tend to settle:

o Validating. Couples compromise often and calmly work out their problems to mutual satisfaction as they arise.

o Volatile. Conflict erupts often, resulting in passionate disputes.

o Conflict-avoiding. Couples agree to disagree, rarely confronting their differences head-on.

Previously, many psychologists might have considered conflict-avoiding and volatile marriages to be destructive. But my research suggests that all three styles are equally stable and bode equally well for the marriage's future.

http://www.amazon.com/Seven-Principles-Making-Marriage-Work/dp/0609805797

http://www.amazon.com/Hold-Me-Tight-Conversations-Lifetime/dp/031611300X/ref=pd_sim_14_5?ie=UTF8&dpID=41loI6rImdL&dpSrc=sims&preST=_AC_UL160_SR101%2C160_&refRID=055ZQNDDR0BCFE4VPKTA

These are 2 amazing books which I read before getting married and it cleared many many doubts which we fail to speak with our friends or families. Books are my lifeline, so I love to read.

After reading so much about Love,marriage and sex, I understood one amazing thing about marriage. And my reader, I would only tell you one thing regarding this, Never marry for any reason, Marry when your heart feels right,marry when you feel it is right. Caste,colour,looks,money,nothing matters. All thats matters is our soul and our happiness.

Today, I consider myself among the luckiest ones who are happily married and I can't believe I am still crazy in love with my husband and it's a blessing that he is in love with me with the same intensity.

I am like Fire when I fight and he is like water, but our fights are like 2 lions,who are wild and furious, but after 9 years of bond also, after anytime when we fight, our make out session upgrades to an another level. Its more passionate and it's more of love when we consume each other. 

I was judged by so many people in my life when I was getting married, But I knew I was right for only one person. If I was with anybody else I was cheating him and his family completely. I cannot do such things in Life. I only go where my heart and soul goes. I might be wrong, but that's me and maybe that's why I'm very very happy in my Life, My Career, My family and friends. 

You need to be with people for right reason, wrong reason give wrong experiences. And Life is too short for using and manuplulating others. I can't, Many can I guess. But I value happiness, childlike marriage and naughtiness. For me I have found the one who even if gets burned today, I will kiss his every scar million times. Even if he looses money, Ill earn for him. But I cannot live without him in my Life. 

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Interview with an Army Wife - Mrs. Sipika Narvekar - Odissi Classical Dancer , Wife and a Mother

Tell me a little about yourself. Your profile

 I am Sipika Narvekar married to an army officer. We are proud parents to our two year old boy Aarav.

I am an alumni of D.P.S Mathura road and have graduated from Delhi University in commerce stream. Currently pursuing B.ed from Jammu University. I am a professional classical dancer, a Phd in Odissi dance. I am a dancer, performer, choreographer and an instructor.

 More importantly i am a homemaker and my hobbies include cooking, baking, driving, clicking pictures and getting myself clicked. 

·        Pls share your achievements with us, eg -  Award, Certificate, Experiences where you won an championships, any experience with sports. If you a player. Done any charity etc

I have won many National competition in dance and drama and have participated in numerous cultural festivals and programs all over india. I have also got opportunity to share stage with renowned Gurus of Odissi dance like-Mrs. Geeta Mahalik, Mrs. Ipsita Bahoora, Mrs. Sharon lowen and many more. As a student i was actively involved in all cultural activities and fest. I was dance director in my school and was also awarded excellency award .

·        What were the biggest adjustments you had to make regarding your relationship, family and schedule during deployment?

I haven't yet actually stayed away from my husband since our marriage but i do dread the unknown feeling. Though there have been short stints of separation when he is out on exercises. during these phases d adjustment that i end up making is packing up my house when moving to my in-laws/parents place and resetting up d same when moving back..Toughest part is when he is going to board that train and me knowing that we would be meeting only after couple of months. 

What is the hardest part about being an army wife

Yet to see one. May be separation 

 From whom do you get support while he’s gone?

 Family and friends 

What have you learned about yourself and your relationship throughout the process of deployment? Do you think your relationship became stronger because of it?

Yes definitely we grow closer with every stint of separation and value each other even  more. But that doesn't imply that i would want to be separated with him so as to grow closer..i would prefer doing it while staying with him..

What advice would you give other military spouses in your position?

I would just say enjoy every moment and be proud of what you are part of.

Share how can anyone being an army wife lookout for prospering career options, what are the best career options available ?

First of all priorities  must be clear. If someone is career oriented and is ready to stay away from their husbands then they have lots of options but if your priority is to stay with your husband and you wanna work then I feel teaching is the best option or they can work in some bank because school and banks are bound to be present every where or if someone is creative so they can start up their own business..Since 3-4 years i have left everything as i was very busy with my baby but  looking  forward to continue taking dance programs and travel.. Side by side I am planing to take dance classes or work as a teacher..

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Love and Hugs,

Priyanka